Surprising Sources of Stress

I remember when Time Magazine called stress the “Epidemic of the 80’s” in its cover story back in 1983. I was so excited to see that Time Magazine, a popular and accepted news source, was talking about something the medical profession rarely recognized back then.

With more than 30 years of wisdom since, not much has changed in many ways: stress continues to plague us and contribute to a myriad of health challenges and I see it in my patients every day. In fact, many of them tell me that life in the 80’s seems calm in comparison to the busy pace of life now.

However, there is some good news: more and more practitioners are recognizing the importance of adrenal health and its connection to stress. Adrenal fatigue as a significant health condition has only been introduced into the main stream recently, and even now, many doctors don’t recognize or understand it, but at least the movement has started.

At Women to Women, we’ve been talking about and treating adrenal fatigue for decades. When I ask my patients to describe something stressful, most of my patients can produce a personal example pretty quickly: being stuck in traffic and being late to a child’s recital or game, missing a flight connection, having an enormously long to-do list to prepare for an event or a holiday, or a tight deadline at work for a big project coming due. What many of us don’t realize is that it’s not so much the one time situation as it is the little stresses of every day life can do damage to our health; it is the cumulative and repetitive stressors over time that do the most harm.

Now a new study reveals the surprising fact that most people are more stressed at home than at work. I’d like to talk more about why that may be and share with you some sources of stress I see with my patients at Women to Women every day. Many of these surprising stress sources are things that most people don’t even consider or recognize as having an impact on their health but these stressors can do significant harm to your health and hormonal balance over time. Maybe some of these will be familiar to you, too.

Stress is Higher at Home Than Work

Last week I shared that while I was traveling to and from the Institute of Functional Medicine, where I was facilitating workshops and training new practitioners, I had the chance to catch up on some reading. One of the headlines that caught my eye was a study done by researchers at Penn State that revealed people have much lower stress levels at work than at home.

What made the study especially interesting to me was that more than simply asking people how they felt and determining stress levels purely anecdotally, the researchers also measured the cortisol levels of the participants at home and at work. (Cortisol is a biological marker of stress; more on that later.) We’ve always heard that work is the source of so much of our stress and home is where we re-charge, but this new finding reflects what many of my patients have told me for years: home is not a stress-free haven.

Rather, home can actually cause stress, especially for women. Before we delve deeper into some of the reasons why, one of the really interesting conclusions of the study was that women (as well as men) reported significantly lower levels of stress at work than at home and this included parents, although the decrease was not quite as big for parents as for non-parents. But something really shocking came out beyond having less stress at work. Women (unlike men) reported that not only was stress lower but their happiness levels were higher at work than at home: many found work to be renewing!

This conclusion supports numerous other studies published over the years that show that people who work have better mental and physical health than those who do not. In fact, mothers who work full-time outside the home through their twenties and thirties have better health at age 45 (an age at which stress can wreak havoc on hormonal balance heading into menopause) than mothers who worked part-time, had periods of unemployment, or who chose to be stay-at-home moms.

Perhaps because they have to deal with so much, the full-time working moms are forced to find better ways to manage their stress levels and wellness, whether it’s hiring help around the house, or making sure they hit the gym or get that massage. Or perhaps, because they have an outlet or a place to escape the frenzy of home, somewhere they can make a valuable contribution and be recognized for something other than being chef, maid and chauffeur, those chores and labels don’t cause the same emotional stresses that can impact health over time.

Regardless, it does not mean that full-time working mothers have stress-free lives. But they do seem to have lower stress levels than other women overall and the research shows that that full-time workingwomen do experience better health. (Though clearly, if you hate your job, that will change things significantly and may cause stress and health concerns, not prevent them.) Beyond the overall health and wellness impacts of full-time work, I had to wonder, and you may too, why it is that work is seen as a place of renewal and home is seen as chaotic and stressful for women?

My patients have given me some other surprising sources of stress that may help shed some light on why home can be a source of stress for many men and especially women today. As I considered what they have shared with me, I found other experts recognized the same concerns as potential sources of stress that my patients have shared. Let’s see if any of them resonate with you.

Surprising Sources of Stress

Your Partner/Significant Other

When we first merge our lives with someone, it can be stressful adjusting to so much that is new. Then we settle in and as time goes on and life evolves, money, parenting and life choices can bring on stress as well. If you don’t see eye to eye with your partner on any big issue, whether it’s money, kids, intimacy, shared workload or how you spend your time, being at home will be stressful!

In addition to struggling with a particular issue, not having alignment on some foundational relationship basics such as communication styles, intimacy preferences, how you show affection, love, appreciation and support for one another, and how much time is spent together as a couple, can wreak havoc on a relationship as well. Relationship challenges or differing styles can cause stress and may create distance and an emotional gap that in and of itself can create stress as well.

I believe relationships are so important to our overall health and well being that I am working on a new and exciting project, coming this summer. I’m excited to be bringing you a whole new series of websites providing a new way of learning about the differences between men and women and how together we can create a great intimate partnerships. I can’t wait to help you create better health through better partnerships!

(Watch for more information, coming soon.)

Multi-tasking

For so long we’ve been taught that we should multi-task and as women, let’s face it, we do it because we can! But new studies show that not only are people more successful and accomplish more when they focus on one thing instead of trying to do several at once, but they are less stressed. One particular study measured heart-rate variability as a reflection of mental stress and found that people who answer emails during the day as they work instead of setting aside time each day to respond to all their mail at once experience more stress. (More on email as a stressor below)

Digital Devices and Social Media

When Time Magazine talked about stress in the 1980’s, we weren’t walking around with smart phones and tablets in our pockets and bags or lying in bed at night texting or checking Facebook. We wonder why we are stressed when we never take time to unplug and reconnect with nature, family and friends! How many times have you seen families (or done this yourself) out to dinner or watching TV, all on their own devices simultaneously?

Whenever we read or see a message, email or post that is stressful or unfortunate, we take on some of that stress ourselves. Subconsciously, we may think or worry that it could happen to us and a post or a comment impacts us much in the same way that watching the violence and negativity on nightly news may. Research also shows that negative body image and longer periods of post-break up pain are just two of the downsides associated with social media use.

Apart from exposure to negative or stressful messages, using technology before bed can also interfere with sleep and excessive technology use can reduce your availability for connection and intimacy with your partner and family.

We also lose the warmth that comes with a direct interaction that is not transferred through an email or text exchange as well as tone and context; that’s why it’s never a good idea to discuss anything important, particularly with your partner, over email or text.

And while setting aside an hour for email while you’re on vacation is definitely better than checking your phone every 5 minutes, it’s hard to remove all the information, requests, ideas, problems, and tasks from your head and not have them creep into your thoughts while you should be playing and relaxing with your family or friends. This distraction will take hold at home if you check mail after leaving work or before bed as well.

Housework

For some people housework and creating order in the home is relaxing. For others, it is exactly the opposite and is a huge source of stress. Even if you do enjoy it, if you feel that you don’t get enough help and support from others in getting it done, or you have to face a messy or disorganized environment on occasion, it can become a source of stress for you as well. Dividing up the workload in a manner that everyone feels comfortable with and feeling supported in your role is key. This can be challenging for many couples and families to accomplish, however, and may be a source of significant stress in the home.

These are just a few of the sources of stress that impact us at home and may play a big role in why work can feel like an escape at times. When I ask my patients for examples of big and stressful things, however, as I shared with your earlier, these are not the things they name first. Any one of these can become a big and divisive issue, but even if it is not the biggest challenge you face, each of these smaller stressors can bring steady and unrelenting stress into your daily life that can lead to relationship challenges, less happiness, and health concerns such as hormonal imbalance and adrenal fatigue.

Stress and Adrenal Fatigue

When we are in a dangerous or stressful situation, our adrenal glands, which sit on top of our kidneys, release adrenaline to make us more alert and focused, and cortisol, to convert protein to energy and release our stored sugars, glycogen, so we can respond quickly. The adrenal response will prepare us to fight or flee by releasing energy, sharpening our senses, and slowing our digestion. Once the threat is removed, adrenaline rapidly vanishes and cortisol slowly returns to normal again.

When stress is ongoing or daily and not a once in a while occurrence, the adrenal glands focus the resources required (including estrogen) to make cortisol, resulting in hormonal imbalance. In addition, too much cortisol can damage healthy tissues. When the adrenals become totally burned out from this repetitive process, adrenal exhaustion and serious health concerns may result.

But before they are fully exhausted, the adrenals will function at limited capacity, resulting in hormonal imbalance and adrenal fatigue. In this case, you may experience symptoms such as weight gain, depression, cravings, insomnia, fuzzy thinking, and mood swings.

While I see this often in my practice, the good news is that Women to Women’s foundational nutrition and lifestyle recommendations can help stressed out women get back on track and restore their adrenal health. Our adrenal health system products also play a key role in restoring hormonal balance and providing adrenal support by delivering foundational nutritional support that is just not available from today’s food supply.

Our products and programs have been helping thousands of women to restore hormonal balance and repair adrenal fatigue for more than three decades. Together we can help you reduce your symptoms, restore your health, and finally feel like yourself again.

If you experience any of the stressors in this article or any other sources of stress on an ongoing basis, if you feel tired or worn out, have trouble sleeping or are wired, if you feel stressed more than occasionally, or if you would describe your life, or home or work environment as stressful, that stress can significantly impact your health over time. In fact, you may already have hormonal imbalance and and adrenal fatigue.

Stress doesn’t have to wear you down and wipe you out or leave you wired and unable to sleep. You can feel better. We can help. To learn more about adrenal fatigue click here.

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