Menopause & perimenopause
How can I help my husband understand what I’m going through?
Q: I’m a 40-year-old female, now married for 17 years and starting
to experience early menopause. I’m finding myself to be very emotional lately,
crying more now than ever before. I’m not depressed — at least not often
— but I do experience times when I feel that no one understands me.
I’m not on any type of hormone therapy or medication. I’m not experiencing
hot flashes or night sweats.
I just cannot seem to explain to my husband what’s happening to me emotionally
now. I was able to convince him that we need to read up on the effects of menopause.
Can you help me to help my husband understand the new life I’m living?
A: At Women to Women, we certainly understand how difficult it
can be for women to relay their feelings to their spouses at this time in life.
The journey you are on is an individual one, and sometimes we can only fully comprehend
major life changes in retrospect.
Each relationship between two people is unique as well, and carries with it a complex
set of constraints, strengths, and history. This too makes it difficult to offer
meaningful advice on how best to explain the perimenopausal experience to your partner.
But there are common themes, and it is important for your spouse to know and understand
more about the physical and emotional changes you are experiencing. For starting
tips on bridging this gap, you may want to read our main article on
talking to your partner about menopause. Then you might like to share some
of our other articles on menopause and perimenopause with your husband:
You may also wish to review our additional
menopause reading list, where we summarize some of our favorite books on
the topic of menopause.
If you would like to learn more about the Personal Program and how it might help
balance your system at this time of life, give us a call at
1-800-798-7902
. We are amazed each week as we hear back from the many women whose lives we have
helped change — for the better!
Return to:
Our Personal Program is a great place to start
The Personal Program promotes natural hormonal balance with nutritional supplements,
our exclusive endocrine support formula, dietary and lifestyle guidance, and optional
phone consultations with our Nurse–Educators. It is a convenient, at-home
version of what we recommend to all our patients at the clinic.
If you have questions, don't hesitate to call us toll-free at
1-800-798-7902. We're here to listen and help.
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Maine, for those who can make the trip. Click
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Original Publication Date: 10/12/2006
Last Modified:
02/16/2010
Principal Author: Marcy Holmes, NP, Certified Menopause Clinician